Well, in my book that's not cheating. I think behavior counts, not thoughts. Obviously if fantasies take over, then we have a problem, but for me, fantasy just enlivens sexuality. I've gone through FMG/BE in my head with so many girls next door, but my heart, my body and my soul belong to J____.
Funny, but once J_____ and I became an item, many many years ago, I stopped fantasizing about her. And yet, her identity as a strong women was and is very important to me and our relationship. That's one place where fantasy and reality meet.
Anyway, for purposes of this poll, this site and my stories, I always choose the girl next door.
I agree with Mark and also share a similar life experince with my lady.