I completely agree with you- gentle amazons are the best!
Try Valerafon's bookshelf:
http://www.thevalkyrie.com/stories/valerafon/index.htmThere's humiliation involved, but it's relatively minor (mostly just teasing). For the most part, the girls are younger, but much larger than their male counterparts, and the mothering/nurturing aspect is played up quite often. Physical/verbal abuse does creep in from time to time, but not that often (at least not like in most stories). "Reunion in Socal" has got to be my all-time favorite.