Well, you’re speaking for me too. You describe the world of a hidden desire and hidden fulfillment very well. Although to generalize more, this is also the nature of male sexual desire (I won’t speak for women here). We look at the female body. The clothes hide the body and reveal it. They draw our attention while keeping us out. We mentally undress the women we work with and the women we pass by. We (at least I) can’t help it. The muscularity is another layer. Is it there? What can we do to make it burst out? Can it happen in reality or just in our minds?
I wonder whether my own focus on transformation and power transfer is another side of the "reveal" as you call it.
I also wonder whether if our fetish were normal it would lose some of its excitement.