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January 13, 2008 at 5:32 am #63056Phillip MarzetteParticipant
I guess all I needed was a topic like this to come out of hiding.
Anyway Sarah, the message of support that you get from me may seem boilerplate, however I'll stick with what I have from my heart. Just believe in yourself and push yourself to who you want to be in life, whether it is a nurse, a teacher, or a bodybuilder. As long as you enjoy what you do, it doesn't matter what others will think and as long as you are true to yourself, you will have people to support you in some fashion.
Don't give up on your dream, Sarah. Peace.
January 13, 2008 at 6:02 am #63057Robert McNayParticipantI'm not really into growth. My penchant is for athletic women, and is pretty much buried and discussed with no one. I think I have a couple friends who suspect where my tastes in women lay, because I've comment on how I find particular celebrities attractive. Those celebrities are usually more athletic in build or have clearly visible muscles.
Even the pictures I collect and stories I right are tucked away on the server of my home network. The directory access permissions are set for only mine and the administrator's login. Of course, I'm the administrator ;D .
Being single, and no girlfriend, hope springs eternal that I might meet an athletic woman like that. It would even be better if she actually liked me. :-
January 13, 2008 at 6:23 am #63058errant12345ParticipantNot really. I used to keep it quiet, but now pretty much all my friends know, and none of them think it's that weird. Then again, we're a pretty weird bunch I guess. My family probably knows, but I don't really feel the need to tell them in the event that they don't. I'm pretty much a bachelor for life(I don't believe in romance), so the girlfriend element is completely absent and a moot point besides.
January 13, 2008 at 7:03 am #63059Phillip MarzetteParticipantBack on topic, only my sister and her boyfriend know of it. As far as I know, they haven't mentioned it to anyone else. My dad did see me with a WPW when I was younger, but didn't think much of it since I was still going through puberty.
I guess it's just harder for me to say it to other people because I have no success with women and people always want to know what I'm into. It gets harder to put it off each time, especially with repeat inquirers.
January 13, 2008 at 9:05 am #63060MuscleSarahParticipantWell there are plenty of guys here who would support the HELL right out of you hitting the gym that hard. And they're out there in the RL too. Even if they won't be into it as much as some of us here, they'd be open minded enough and would support you. Just don't let anybody else keep you from doing it.
Well, thanks for the words of encouragement, but I can hold my own. I know there are plenty of guys here, most of you seem to pm me! lol But, even as much as all of you like a muscular woman, I don't think I'd want to date a man who fantasized about it all the time like I think some of you here do.
Please don't take this wrong, but it makes me wonder… I think that supporting womens bodybuilding is good, but I have to wonder about some of you and the stories I have read.
For some of you that keep it hidden away from everyone else, and it sounds like some of you live in little dark holes, you should really get out, join a gym, and maybe you could meet a woman who is into bodybuilding and staying healthy and working out.
Myself, I love to workout, and somedayy I will probably take a stab at bodybuilding, but I'll do it when I'm ready to do so and on my terms. Like I said before, some of you should probably join a gym, and then your interest might become a reality with a really nice woman who won't think or look down at you because of your desires.
Just my two cents and the way I see this thread and have read most of your posts,
Sarah
January 13, 2008 at 9:20 am #63061TC2ParticipantThough it's true a huge portion of us do think about it often, it's not exactly something that affects day to day life, well I'm just going to speak for myself.
For -me- personally,
I may think about it, but I vent out all the excess through drawings and works of art or animations. So that way I don't feel compelled to talk or discuss it in public or dating life, because it's pretty much out of my system by that point.
There's also the misconception, which is understandable that women will think it's what we all want them to be, to have their bodies change and become strong etc. But that's just simply not the case, many of us are comfortable with the everyday woman's body and consider any of them who are buff a nice bonus.
And also, though finding a bodybuilding woman in a gym is fine and dandy, I always thought the idea of working out with a girl who is at the same level as the man, so that they could both build and support each other together is much more appealing than the already buff and beefy beauty.
Anyway, just had to throw in as I'm not a big fan of misconceptions floating around.
January 13, 2008 at 10:02 am #63062demented20ParticipantI've seen this thread pop up and down over time, and I've avoided it. I thought at first that this is a real personal question until I really thought about my situation. I split it into two separate questions. The first is reality…
I don't go out and advertise or anything, but people who have been around me know that athletic body types are one of several body types that I like. My brothers know and a couple of my close friends know. I have dated athletic girls in the past, and I have dated some more voluptuous girls too. I think my personal physical attractions are pretty normal as far as it goes, but unlike some guys I don't exclude a well muscled woman. I will admit though that I tend to notice when a woman is more defined than usual.
Now for the second part… Most people who know me have no idea that I write FM stories, or that I belong to a message board like this. My brothers sort of know, but it never really comes up in conversations or anything. I don't worry about it or try to hide it, but I do keep it on the low. I do on occasion let people read some of my stories, but they are edited for general viewing. The story lines stay the same, but I pretty much cut out most of the overt muscle. I shouldn't have to do that, but such is life.
Well, got that off my chest.
January 13, 2008 at 11:14 am #63063stmercy2020ParticipantFor some of you that keep it hidden away from everyone else, and it sounds like some of you live in little dark holes, you should really get out, join a gym, and maybe you could meet a woman who is into bodybuilding and staying healthy and working out.
I dunno. I go to a gym regularly and I teach a physical sport; I don't think of a gym as an ideal place to meet a woman, though. I know when I'm at the gym, I'm working out and I really have minimal interest in dealing with anybody I don't already know.
As for the stories posted here, some of which I've written, I think you have to remember that there is a difference between fantasy and reality. Some of the things "published" here are brutal beyond all reason, and I admit to deriving a certain amount of erotic pleasure from them- as fiction only, though; I would never have any desire to meet, for example, any of reaperman's anti-heroines. I like my bones in their current configuration and my blood housed internally, thank you very much. On a related topic, I wouldn't particularly wish the lives of any of my characters on anyone; most of them spend most of my stories in some degree of mortal peril (whether they know it or not), and even Sylph is struggling with how her unusual physique affects her and the world around her.
This does get me thinking on another idea, though- how many people would actually want to live with and deal with the reality of living with a bodybuilder? Bodybuilding is a sport that requires a fair amount of vanity; you are judged on appearance, and you have to spend time, money, willpower, and mental acuity to achieve the sort of physique that wins contests. It's not something that they're just going to put down when you decide you'd like a nice night out, either- it requires a nearly obsessive drive, and that extra pint of haagen-daaz is probably not on the menu.
For myself, I don't think I would really want to be involved in a serious relationship with a FBBer; just friends would probably be all the self-involvement I could really cope with on a regular basis.
Now for the second part… Most people who know me have no idea that I write FM stories, or that I belong to a message board like this. My brothers sort of know, but it never really comes up in conversations or anything. I don't worry about it or try to hide it, but I do keep it on the low. I do on occasion let people read some of my stories, but they are edited for general viewing. The story lines stay the same, but I pretty much cut out most of the overt muscle. I shouldn't have to do that, but such is life.
LOL! I'm trying to imagine cutting the overt muscle out of any of the Sylph stories; my brain just can't seem to wrap around it. I let several of my colleagues read my stories, and I make no secret about the fact that I write them. Since I'm too lazy to go to the trouble of printing them out, I simply direct them to the websites where I post them (my dA page, these days) and if they can't figure that I'm interested in strong women from that, then they need an IQ transplant, stat.
January 13, 2008 at 8:24 pm #63064demented20ParticipantYeah, I got in a tight spot some time back. My aunt came over to visit and she asked me if I had been writing recently. Well of course the answer is going to be yes. She used to read most of my stuff before I ever got into FM stories. So of course she wanted to read them. My background is in adventure, action, and sci-fi. That's what she was used to. I've always had 'strong' female characters in my stories. Even when I was a kid. They might not have been buff or whatever back then, but none of my female lead characters took crap off of anybody. Well anyway, after some hasty rewrites, I printed out some of my latest and let her read them. She read most of the Power and Fury stuff and some of the Caeda stuff that I had finished at that time. Its not like Jan or Lisa were any weaker, but the descriptions and accounts of their feats of strength were changed to protect the uninitiated.
But now you're making me feel guilty. Maybe I should have left it all in there.January 14, 2008 at 3:31 am #63065Robert McNayParticipantWell, thanks for the words of encouragement, but I can hold my own. I know there are plenty of guys here, most of you seem to pm me! lol But, even as much as all of you like a muscular woman, I don't think I'd want to date a man who fantasized about it all the time like I think some of you here do.
Please don't take this wrong, but it makes me wonder… I think that supporting womens bodybuilding is good, but I have to wonder about some of you and the stories I have read.
For some of you that keep it hidden away from everyone else, and it sounds like some of you live in little dark holes, you should really get out, join a gym, and maybe you could meet a woman who is into bodybuilding and staying healthy and working out.
Myself, I love to workout, and somedayy I will probably take a stab at bodybuilding, but I'll do it when I'm ready to do so and on my terms. Like I said before, some of you should probably join a gym, and then your interest might become a reality with a really nice woman who won't think or look down at you because of your desires.
Just my two cents and the way I see this thread and have read most of your posts,
Sarah
The problem is, a lot of muscular women themselves, take a dim view of guys into them and their build. They seem to take an even stronger dislike and fetishist attitude than our closet friends would if we confided in them. It was best explified by a female bodybuilder in the Pumping Iron film about women. She said "Lucky me, I've got 4 breasts."
Its really a double standard that society can accept a guy with an oversized mammery fixation but then condemn those of us who just prefer women with more athletic or muscular build.
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