[ratlaf]

Right on!  Thanks everyone for replying.  I agree the most with Mimi and Scott, Fett you make me smile… 

I haven't been with her too long and the honesty route is definitely the one to take with her, especially since we seem to be headed in the long term direction.  I feel no guilt or shame, I just don't want her to freak out and take off…  Just working out the best way to go about it.

I hope this thread helps anyone else out there too!

[TC2]

I'm not so sure I'd want to go with the very open on the first date approach.  I'm a very private kind of guy and only like to open up to people when I know I can trust them.

After all I don't want just ANYONE knowing of my deepest fantasies, so though it sounds ideal in paper to just be open up front.  I also think it increases the chances of scaring a woman a way.

I'm more a fan of the method of having the woman fall in love with you first, since my only interest is FMG and muscular women that wouldn't be forced on her, it's not a big deal and I'm not into other things anyway.  I find for me they just say "Who cares, I love you for who you are."

I can live without a muscular or FMG enjoying wife.  However, I'd much rather prefer to just live with whoever that special someone will be, as long as she lets me draw and do my FM thing.

[LupusBazaar]

Here's a hard one, what do you say if you've been together eight years?  :-

[BlackKusanagi]

Thats pretty tough…hmm…maybe there should be a chance you two really open up…and get your emotions out there.

[TC2]

8 years is a while but it can be treated the same way as one year.

You just tell her that there's something you've been meaning to tell her, but just never had the courage to say.  Of course, if you can live with never telling her then by all means, but the truth comes out eventually.

[Fett]

Here's a hard one, what do you say if you've been together eight years?  :-

Crippling spinal injuries are timeless.

[drum monkey]

Have you not had a single conversation about sexual desires?  Frankly, just bring it up in conversation that it may come up in.  Don't shy away from anything.

A conversation of rule 34 (if it exists, there's porn for it) can put things in perspective.  Though, less effectively than a crippling spinal injury.

There are totally much worse things out there than being into a strong woman.

[Lu]

I'm not quite sure how to bring the subject out of nowhere. Before I started dating my now fiancé he had seen my art sites, so he knew I was odd and had seen some of the things I was interested in that come out that way. I suppose it was a nice bridge into it all because then, I could expand (no pun intended :p) on what were actual fetishes and fantasies (though mine weren't related to muscle, it was a similar thing as I was admitting to a fetish).

Just do it slowly, I'd suggest. I didn't jump right in there with it. Yes, it can be seen as a little unusual but more often than not you'll be surprised at how it's not much of a big deal with the person.
I got a ''I didn't even know there were people into that'' kind of reaction, but oddly enough he's embraced it.

Just keep trust in mind- if you're both comfortable with each other it should be all right, as people have said there are much worse things. If the relationship is so fragile that she bolts from you sharing some of your deepest feelings, then it wasn't realistically going to last very long anyway.
That, and maybe if you're sharing she might have some fetishes or fantasies she'll want to tell you about.

[ScottG]

8 years is a while but it can be treated the same way as one year.

You just tell her that there's something you've been meaning to tell her, but just never had the courage to say.  Of course, if you can live with never telling her then by all means, but the truth comes out eventually.

Absolutely correct, on all accounts.  It will come out eventually, the question is whether you want to control how it comes out or risk not even being there to respond when it does come out.

Crippling spinal injuries are timeless.

F**king hilarious! 🙂

[LupusBazaar]

Thanks everyone, I now understand…

That FETT is the only one here that isn't crazy. o_O

<buries secret as deep as possible> ^_^

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